Very few people quickly admit their beliefs are wrong
This blog has been a meeting place for many who have received huge challenges to their view of women in ministry. Here I receive questions about how to deal with a spouse or a pastor who is strongly opposed to allowing women to freely serve the body of Christ with their God-given gifts. How does one deal with opposition even when one has presented well-reasoned arguments and the other person is unwilling to engage the arguments or is unwilling to really listen to what you have to say?
Today I would like to call attention to a very gentle apologist who has written some really great tactics that are very encouraging to me in how to deal with those who oppose women in ministry. While I understand that some people are so abusive and unChristlike that it is better to stay away from them rather than engage them and risk being personally attacked yourself, sometimes it is impossible to stay away from strong opposers because they are part of our family or the church family where we worship.
In today’s issue of Stand to Reason’s (STR) “The Page”, Greg Koukl’s email updates sent to subscribers, Greg gives some wise advice on the issue of why change is so hard and how to handle opposition.
Very few people quickly admit their beliefs are wrong. Changing views is not easy to do, especially when a lot is at stake. When someone forcefully disagrees with you, do not expect him to surrender quickly. Usually, it is a slow process for a person to admit he was mistaken about something import.
Sometimes a person’s impulse to resist is so strong he will get verbally abusive, even when your argument is reasonable and your manner is gracious. When a conversation gets to this point, careful thinking doesn’t matter much to some people. Winning is more important.
To be an effective ambassador in every situation, you need a plan to help keep you in the driver’s seat of conversations with people who have controlling personalities and bad manners. That plan is precisely what you will find in this month’s edition of Solid Ground.
I encourage you to have a look at the Solid Ground edition at the link above. Greg deals with “One Tough Customer” and the characteristic “steamroller” who tries to overpower you. The tactics that Greg presents are good and solid and can be used in very many situations including witnessing for Christ and handling those who oppose your biblical view of women in ministry. I think that Greg’s new book on Tactics will be very helpful to my readers who struggle with difficult people in their lives. Greg writes:
There is another reason I’m looking forward to you reading “One Tough Customer“, the title of the January Solid Ground. It is adapted from my new book, Tactics – A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions being released this month from Zondervan.
My approach in Tactics is based on STR’s Ambassador model, a method that trades more on friendly curiosity – a kind of relaxed diplomacy – than on confrontation.
You may be like a lot of Christians who want to make a difference for the Kingdom, but are not sure how to begin. In Tactics, I give you a game plan so you can get involved in a way you never thought you could, yet with a tremendous margin of safety.
You may know nothing about answering challenges people raise against what you believe. You may even be a brand new Christian. It doesn’t matter. In Tactics I introduce you to effective maneuvers that will guide your steps.
I have received a lot of help from Greg’s audio teaching on Tactics and his new book on Tactics is likely to be a tremendous help to those who find strong opposition to women in ministry and who need to understand ways to engage in a discussion without an argument.